Choosing for Love (3)

yes. Again the same title. Because it fits what’s going on in this world.

Have you noticed? We’re presented with choices all the time. And the potential impact of those choices tends to grow. Personal relationships or geo-politics alike, we humans get to make more and more important choices.

Do we choose the path of the Old Paradigm? Do we choose for uncomfortable safety because that’s what we’ve been doing for the last dozens of years? Do we choose to be numb and stick our heads in the sand? Avoiding responsibility? Again?

The most important thing to know is that we cannot make a wrong choice. We never have. We ALWAYS choose for what we judge as “the right thing to do”. For whatever reason. And we can always choose again. Whatever “the other ones” say. Because that is none of our business. It defines who they are, not you.

YOU are defined by the choices you make. If you choose to be informed, to take conscious choices, to choose for LOVE instead of FEAR, you will experience different consequences. For ALL choices have their consequences.

Do we “follow the leaders” in their messages of fear for more terror attacks or for a Brexit or a potential clamp down on your civil rights? Or do we choose for LOVE? Do we choose to join in compassion, in love and show our world and religious leaders that hate won’t work anymore in today’s society?

The ONLY true solution to today’s issues and problems is LOVE. Choosing for LOVE sets the other person in their power. It includes firmly standing in your power as well. It includes setting borders, demanding to be treated respectfully, whomever it concerns. Relatives, co-workers, politicians, law enforcers, even your own kids, etc. For the others will only treat you with respect as far as you respect your Self.

Stand in your power, choose for Love, for it’s the only answer there is. And you are forever.


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Choosing for Love (2)

Yesterday, March 22nd, Brussels. I was to pick up colleagues from the airport in the morning. I was delayed and just before leaving, the news came to me “better not go”. The next thing I knew was that I was looking at horrifying images from both attacks in Brussels. The mobile phone network was down, overloaded. The government asked our citizen to stay put, don’t go out on the streets, schools were asked to shut doors and keep the kids inside.

So what do I choose? This question sprung to mind with the answer following immediately. I choose for Love. Love and compassion. And what do I see?

Ordinary people, our citizens and many international visitors with them, start creating this Love message in public. Writing it with chalk on the pavements of squares in the heart of Brussels. And my heart sings. Humanity starts to understand.

Yes, so many victims and wounded people hurts. Yes indeed. But no, the cause is too important to give in to the fear that is radiated by our government and mainstream media. The cause is freedom. Freedom of speech, freedom of choice, freedom to love the persons we choose in the way we choose to, freedom to be the persons that we want to be, freedom to take our own decisions over our own lives, our own health.

Fear, revenge or aggression will never ever solve a problem or a crisis. Solving a “problem” requires a higher consciousness than with which the problem was created in the first place. So division, separation, walls, barbed wire, ID checkpoints, reduced food supplies, fear based management & control, waterboarding, using double standards, us-vs-them based religion will only enlarge the problem instead of solving it.

What struck me most is that you can see a clear difference in the types of messages sent out by “those in power” and “those not in power”. Have a look at it yourself, the social media are loaded with them: those in power radiate fear-based and control-based messages about what happened; those “not in power” radiate compassion, love, #iwanttohelp type messages. The local language hashtag #ikwilhelpen quickly trended on social media.


It warms my heart to learn that immediately after the event, local companies started to offer help. Hotels offered their spare rooms for free, taxi drivers offered free rides to the stranded people, families offered free b&b services.

This is in huge contrast with some of the messaging spread by governments and big ego’s in charge… and no, I refuse to share these with you here. Enough of that.

I end this blog by saying a big THANK YOU to all that offered help, all that sent love and compassion, all that shared their messages of love with the world in these challenging times. Please let’s continue doing this, it has a bigger impact than we can ever imagine.

I choose LOVE, for this is the only way forward.

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Choosing for Love

To everyone I know – near and far –
To all – friend and foe
To all – peaceful or hatred of heart or mind
To all I knew – in current and previous lives, throughout eons
To all indigenous – American, Maori or otherwise

I wish you for 2016 – and far beyond –
The experience of unconditional love
The experience of peace of mind and heart
Being surrounded by people who love you

I wish that the feelings you radiate may reflect back to you tenfold

I wish that you may consciously choose to radiate love instead of blindly follow and act upon the orchestrated fear messaging radiated by news, social media, religion, governments, etc

Let us all join in sharing love and respect for each other
Let us stop hiding behind fear and lies and reinstate the unity of all people as part of the plans of the Great Spirit

Te Takanawa

Ilanato Campita, aka Blue Thunder

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Stand in your power

Have you noticed? What the ratio is of fear-based messaging spread via news and main stream media?

Have you noticed? How the owners of the media corporations have tightened their grip on what’s being “told to the public”?

Have you noticed? How fact-checking has become less and less important for news agencies? That politicians gladly avoid to check their “facts”?

Have you noticed? How celebrity-based news gets absurd high rankings and air-time compared to the real issues of humanity?

And what do you do about that? Sit back and enjoy? Relax and avoid to vote next time? Accept healthcare cuts, tax raises for the poor and middle-class and tax cuts for the rich? Again?

This time of year, you hear and see all sorts of wishes being spread round through all the social and legacy media. Most messages wish you love, success, health, some wealth. All very “safe” things to wish, ideas heavily sponsored by large commercial corporations, governments, and so on.


The worst that can happen to the establishment is that humans go stand in their own power. That people actually start THINKING before they spend money, cast a vote, go on holiday. For THINKING means people might start to realize that spending money is actually an act of democracy. Giving money to a company to get one of their products is VOTING YES for that company and for what it stands for. It’s a choice. A very important one.

Standing in your power and raising your awareness to do so includes being aware of who you give your money, your vote. And being INFORMED about what that company, that politician, that country, that religion stands for. In other words, why not also tune in to alternative sources of information? You, WANTING to know more? I DARE you. And then, YOU ACTING upon that in alignment with your own beliefs.

WALK YOUR TALK. Be Aware. Stand in your own power.

Be courageous enough not to let you be misguided by the messages of fear that are spread all over the internet and news channels. Understand that these are only what a small portion of the population wants you to THINK what the news actually is. For they are the ones who OWN the news channels. Corporations, governments. History is written by the victors, right?

Again, I DARE YOU to start questioning your actions, your spending, your choices. And choose again. And again. And again.

And yes, my wishes for all of you, for humanity, are that an awful lot of you start doing just that. Be more aware humans, standing in your power, walking your talk. Taking responsibility in all sorts of ways. carefully choosing what you spend money on, who you vote for. Choose what you see, what you read, what you eat. Having said this, I’d like to add that I support what Grandmother Mepi says in her end-of-year message.

And you know what? Aware humans are far more happy ones. They don’t let themselves be thrown out of their comfort zone by fearful TV news or ill-shouting politicians. They know happiness is a choice. A very conscious one.

Enjoy your choices.

Enjoy who you are.

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A Conscious Choice for Joy

What do I choose? The question that pops in our brains a zillion times a day. Ham or cheese? Worries or joy? What someone else expects from me or what my heart tells me what to do?

We get bombarded with information all day long. News media, social media tell us about what happens in the world today. At least, that’s what they want you to believe…. It’s what their owners want to be “news”…. And guess what…. a lot of the messages flying around to day are about increasing the level of FEAR on this planet. Alerts of all kinds, violence all over the place, or so it seems…..

The issue is not what happens, the point is how you react to that. Join the “fear” as well? Or choose for joy, choose to live your own life in harmony and thus contribute to the ever more raising of consciousness of the humanity.

To choose for joy doesn’t mean a choice for being selfish. It’s a choice for self-first. And that is the best ever choice you can make.

Taking good care of your Self is the highest gift for your self AND for all people around you.

Choose to see different. Choose to see the love in this beautiful world.

Enjoy Life !

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Greece, Banks, Ego’s and People …

Ever seen a bigger parade of political ego‘s? Noticed how ego’s were at the forefront of the discussions over Greece in the media in the last few weeks?

Propaganda is the only description of what happened at all sides of “the fences”. And it still is.

Greek Flag over Lesbos

Yes, the national sport “avoiding taxes” need to be dealt with. And yes, a much more fair approach to who-pays-what-tax and its enforcement is very welcome in Greece. However, imposing strict rules that only serve to help banks (Greece’s creditors) and pay interest is not how a country and its economy can be put back on the rails.

History – have we forgotten?

Helping countries in trouble such as Greece to make their economies flourish again (and thus help their citizen) is the best way of helping ourselves, “the other countries” … Remember the Versailles treaty where Germany was put under such harsh schema that it triggered WWII? Remember that in 1953 the creditor countries (including Greece) signed a treaty to relief Germany’s debt by 50%?

The agreement significantly contributed to the growth of the post-war German economy and reemergence of Germany as a world economic power. (from Wikipedia)

The IMF, the European politicians and its state leaders should now show their leadership and skills. What you see now is they hide behind their ego to serve local national politics. What if ?…. and the only answer they want to hear is “we will get re-elected if we do this“…… whatever happens to the Greek population, whatever happens to the euro….

Sad, very sad.

I plead to relief (part of) the Greek debt now and start booking your next holiday there. Paid for locally in cash. No banks. So that their population has a better chance to survive.

Calamares Lesbos

Solidarity among them is still a true value. I experienced it myself on the isle of Lesbos in 2012. Tourism was 70% down already then and they did what they could to help each other.

Let’s focus on what we CAN do, not on what is (according to the banks) impossible…..

Suggestion: have a look at what Thom Feeney does…. how wonderful indeed !

Enjoy your summer holidays, I chose to spend my money in Greece….

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Laat kinderen kinderen zijn

Het programma #Hautekiet van #Radio1 deze ochtend gaf aandacht aan het zogenaamde “zittenblijven” van kleuters. Jan (Twittert als @hautekiet) kwam daarmee naar aanleiding van een doctoraatsthesis aan de KUL over de impact van ja of neen een extra jaar kleuteren.

Wat me daarin opvalt, is de terminologie die wordt gebruikt. Een “extra jaar kleuteren” zoals ik het noem krijgt de stempel “zittenblijven”. Wat erg. Je bent vijf of zes en je krijgt al direct een stempel.

Kinderen worden tegenwoordig in de kleuterschool “klaargestoomd” voor de échte school. Schande. Laat die kinderen aub toch gewoon “kind” zijn, zonder die prestatiedruk erop. Dingen hen aanleren is ok, doe het dan op hun eigen tempo.

Toen mijn kids in die leeftijd zaten, was ik getuige van menige discussies tussen ouders en school, waarbij het me opviel dat het niet meer ging over het kind, maar over het ego van de ouders. “Wat gaan de anderen ervan denken” primeerde in de gesprekken.

Lieve ouders, laat aub wat anderen denken los. Zet je ego even opzij. Geef je kind de ruimte om kind te zijn en laat het zich ontwikkelen op haar/zijn eigen tempo.

En als dat betekent dat je kind vroeger of later aan de lagere school begint maakt niet uit. Kinderen die op de tippen van hun tenen aan de eerste klas beginnen, zullen ergens binnen de volgende 10 jaar falen en moeten zittenblijven of naar “lager” overstappen. En alléén omdat jij als ouders doorgedrukt hebt “ze kunnen het nu al”.

Beste scholen, zet de kleintjes van 4, 5 en 6 jaar in één klasje. Ze leren van elkaar, er ontstaat veel méér sociale interactie dan je je kan voorstellen en een extra jaar kleuteren wordt dan niet als een “verlies van vriendjes” ervaren. Bij deze een pluim voor de wijze waarop #Steinerscholen dit aanpakken.

Dank !

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Congratulations, Schoenen Torfs

Yes indeed. This is remarkable. For the 6th time, winning the “best employer of the year” award in Belgium. My sincere congratulations to Wouter, Barbara and their whole management team !

Running a company with a mission is not just putting some extra lines of text in your annual report or on the website. Some companies think it is, but make no mistake, employees see and experience this as demotivating. And this has an impact on their performance, hence your bottom line !

A true calling radiated by the C-level which is made part of the DNA of a company delivers results. The first time I heard “your customers will be treated the way you treat your staff“, it came from Richard Branson. Now I am proud to experience that “Schoenen Torfs” has put this (and many other wonderful ideas) into practice.

I must admit, it took me some years to convince myself to enter one of their shops. I delegated buying shoes for the family to my wife. Now that I’m much closer to my kids and that I start to have a more open eye on the world, I had some wonderful experiences at the local Torfs shop nearby (yes, it involved the staff and yes, it had to do with an extreme degree of customer-friendliness), which made me decide to make that my preferred shoe-shop ….

Where I want to buy, is where you’re greeted with a smile and where your pro actively assisted, but without the typical sales-push.  Schoenen Torfs, you’ve created the right balance with your staff, WELL DONE.

Go and have a look on their website, this is a company you want to work for  (and buy your shoes at …🙂 )

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Follow your heart in stead of fear

Decide how you feel about this

Decide how you feel about this

If you read a newspaper or watch news on TV or the internet, you can’t miss it…. The focus of the news agencies (or the ones who own them) is on creating fear. We don’t see that often “good news focus” on main stream news channels, who are aiming for “more clicks” or “more readers” to satisfy their owners who get paid by adverts income…..

This takes away our focus on the feelings in our own heart. I can’t deny being distracted sometimes by this wave of bad news which seems to be overtaking the media. Still, if I do focus and clean my energy field from main stream media messaging, I can truly say that my personal feeling is that “this good old earth” is doing extremely well lately. Poverty is decreasing, diseases are being countered, global violence rates are dropping, …. I can feel a steadily rising level of awareness and consciousness among fast growing parts of the global population. Fear (see here) is an illusion.

Thanks to the “connectedness” we have (grace to the internet) and the “no more secrets” attitude which is rapidly growing with the population and shared through social media, more and more people share their (positive) experiences as well. And I don’t mean just the “my cat goes crazy” shares on Facebook, but the small but “high impact” feel-good movies of people sharing and caring that get multi-million hits and likes ….

And sharing those and allowing these to warm your heart has a bigger impact than you can ever imagine. You are the ones that create your lives at this very moment. Each moment. All the time. And you get to choose what you feel about things, what you feel about what happens to you. And that feeling is what creates the future. Take the photograph below.

Sunrise or sunset ? – choose and decide what it is for you …

Choose what it means for you and decide what your feeling is about that. For this way (using your free will) you create what will cross your path tomorrow. Choose your feelings, choose for love in stead of fear. Choose for happiness, the choice is yours.


Enjoy your choices, for they make who you are.



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The end of the “have to” era

It just doesn’t fit anymore. Helping people by telling them what they “have to” do has passed it’s purpose. More and more people are either in or close by a burn out. Companies struggle to keep their staff productive and launch all sorts of initiatives (see SAP example). And somehow our society fails in helping all those millions who seek help.

Governments and most big corporations assume they can help by increasing the “have to do” items on our lists, supposedly helping us. Have to relax, have to sport, have to take time with the family, have to be polite, have to, have to, … (see a staggering example)

And more and more people seek for help. That is good, but …. Therapists more than often see themselves as keepers of truth and tell their patients what they have to do to get better. Again, have to, have to, … Nothing is farther away from the truth than this.

You don’t “have to” do anything. Nothing. Nada. Niente. This is the planet of free will… don’t let anyone tell you what you “have to do” to get better ….

Look what happens when you give back people their freedom of choice. Put them back in their original state: being responsible for their own choices. Mirror their decisions, thoughts and actions. And let them decide for themselves what helps and what doesn’t. This way, people learn by experience (if they choose to do so). And this is the most powerful tool governments, employers and therapists can have. They know that, so why don’t they do so? 

Our societies have educated humans that must comply to a set of standards put forward by old fashioned rule makers. And the most essential rule of all is that you are “good” only when you comply to these rules and standards. And not make up your own point of view. So as a child, we’ve learnt to listen to other persons’ rules, rather than following our own feelings.

Our feelings never lie, but we’ve learnt not to believe them. We’ve learnt that feelings can be misleading, that they lie ….  For the most dangerous thing for a government, a religion, any organization or corporation who is seeking to remain “in power”, is that individuals start to cultivate, share and live by their own opinions. Telling a patient, customer, citizen that they have to learn to trust their own feelings, rather than doing what they’re told is bad for business….A therapist wants you to come back, don’t they? A government wants you to vote for them next time, don’t they? A corporation wants you to buy their products and live by their standards, don’t they?

When seeking help, when seeking advice, listen to your feelings. (look at suggestion number 1 in this article) Do you really want to be told what to do? Do you really want to give away your power to someone else’s truth? Or do you prefer to listen to options, mirrors and be given the space and time to choose for your Self. 

The “have to” era is over. Particularly in personal growth and mental healthcare, a paradigm shift is taking place that is changing the game forever. Empowerment is key. And this is true for business as well. 

Feels good? => go for it ! 
Someone else’s truth? => run !

 Enjoy !

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